Linda I am so sorry, I don't even know what to say, I pray for you and your family for peace and strength in your time of grieving. You and Tommy were a real life Love story, stay strong and surround yourself with your family and friends. I always loved Tommy and you both.
So very sorry to hear of your loss. I will always remember that it was forever “Tommy and Sylvia”.
I hope that Tom knew how he contributed to the enrichment of everyone lucky enough to know him. The effects of his enrichment continue, even in his passing. I am inspired so to make sure that folks know in life, what I might say of them in death on a platform such as this. As much as our words might lift his family up, or offer some comfort by sharing what he means to us, did we adequately convey to him how grateful we are having the privilege of his acquaintance? I wonder if he knew how lucky I feel to have known him.
Maybe I'm the only one who hasn't shared these things; perhaps he somehow knew. He couldn't be such a good guy without knowing it, thereby knowing his contributions at the very least, right?! This may be a normal part of grieving, to question these things. Maybe I think too much! One thing is clear: he had the life he built and all due satisfaction. I was, at best, just a recurring guest on the Tom Carter show. I'm nonetheless inspired to try to make sure that everyone will have an idea of what they mean to me, BEFORE having to resort to saying it in condolences. I'll start by saying that I truly appreciate meeting Tom's family and hope we might meet again. Your light is as bright and warm as Tom's. It lingers with me still after just meeting you all for the 1st time! I am honored to have had that opportunity. I truly understand why he was always smiling. The weight of the world is made a bit lighter in simply knowing good people. Thank you for having me & for being who you are. He didn't pass the torch; you all ARE the torch. With love and admiration...
Tom was one of the first people I met on the band scene when I first went out with Ken. He was so kind and he made me feel like I belonged. I was so happy to see him. I know he had blue or purple suede shoes on the first time I saw him and it was magic. A huge light went out with him. My heart goes out to you Sylvia and the girls. He leaves behind a legacy of love.
so sorry for your loss sending prayers
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RIP Tom Carter, Some crazy times were had and you surely were a unique individual. Probably hanging with MOJO right now. Never forget that 4th of July party! What a fiasco! Eternal rest brutha.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. I was truly hoping to meet Tom on a future visit. I know your hearts are broken. I pray you find peace and comfort in your many memories. Sending prayers and hugs.
Donna and Lance Holmes
Sylvia and girls...I am so heartbroken for you all. For as long as I can remember it was Tommy and Sylvia.....Love to you all...Mary Roby T-berry
If you look up the meaning of a good man and friend you'll find a picture of Tom Carter. He has left this world way to soon and the people who never knew him are now going to miss out. My heart is aching for his wonderful wife and daughters who he was very proud of. I sure his spirit will live on thru the people that knew him.
Sylvia so sorry for your loss. Hold tight to your many memories. Prayers for comfort & peace for all of you.
This news really kind of shook me. I only saw him not that long ago, at a show in Dayton of course. He was sitting in a chair. I ever saw him sitting at a show before.
Tom has always been the guy with the video camera at shows for as long as I can remember. He was always smiling, making the most of whatever was going on. He wasn't stirring up drama or making trouble. He was always just having fun. Like a friend & I were just saying the other day, if Tom was there, your first thought was, "Tom's here. The band tonight must be good.".
Seems like I've known Tom forever, without actually really knowing him, if that makes any sense. We'd been talking more frequently when we saw each other at shows. I only learned about his kids a few years ago, clearly already adults. I was glad to be learning more about him. He seemed like an endless well of knowledge & experience.
I don't think you could find anyone anywhere with anything negative to say about Tom. He was just good. I really don't know what else I could say. He will be missed by everyone, but it's the family who suffers this loss most. I could not be more sincere in saying that you all have my most heart-felt condolences. The thoughts of so many of us whose lives were touched by Tom's light are with you in this time of loss & remembrance.
To Tom's beautiful family, I'm so very sorry for your loss. My heart hurts for you. I first met Tom when he was a regular customer at Canal Street Tavern when I worked there. I remember being surprised when he brought his wife and two daughters to a Riders in the Sky daytime show, realizing that this cool man was a husband and a father! Through the years, Tom and Sylvia would come "dressed to the nines" for anniversary celebrations or just because. I watched his daughters grow into teenagers as they attended shows with their father. I remember nervously telling Tom about the band that I was playing in. We were having our first show, but we didn't have a name yet. I was beyond excited to see him walk through the door. Not only did he come to the show, but Real Lulu has a video recording of our very first show because of Tom! From that show forward, Tom and his family became loyal attendees to our shows (Real Lulu had the honor of playing for Coral's high school graduation party). Several years after Real Lulu "retired", I told Tom of another band that I was playing in and again, Tom came to our shows either by himself, with Sylvia or one of his daughters. To say that it was an honor to have Tom's approval of the music we created is an understatement. Throughout all of the years, within all of our conversations, one thing was always clear: He LOVED his family.
I send my sincere condolences and much love.
Tom buddy, you will be missed by so many. One of the most truly unique and effervescent individuals I have ever had the honor to personally know. There will only ever be ONE TC..
So very sorry for your loss. Tom was a great person and friend.
My sincere condolences to Sylvia and the entire family. So sorry for your loss.
So very sorry Sylvia and for your family in your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you .
I am so very sorry for your family's loss♥️♥️♥️ Lots of Love and Light ♥️♥️♥️
Coral and China I am so sorry to hear of your fathers passing. You will remain in my prayers. Barbara Dafler
So very sorry for your loss. Tom was a fixture in the Dayton music scene. I always admired his dedication to supporting the bands in town by making that long drive so regularly, and I was always happy to see him in the audience. He will be missed.
Wishing peace and comfort to his friends and family-
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.